Porn 101: Videos you’ll both enjoy

Hey Hudson —
My girlfriend has expressed an interest in watching porn with me, but she doesn’t want anything too rough, and while she doesn’t need a Pulitzer Prize-winning plot, a little something other than straight-up sex would be nice, but nothing too cheesy. Does such a thing exist?

Dear Rosebud (Eh? Get it? Never mind.) —

What an awesome query. I hope I can be of some service. I always think it’s exciting when a partner turns to another and asks to be led down a new path; it shows high interest, communication, and a spirit of forward momentum.

So, you’re looking for a decent plot and a competent acting. Now, I enjoy my porn. Been through a lot. Not once have I ever, ever seen either of these things– much less both of them together. I’m not saying that it doesn’t exist; I’m just saying that even the best Conquistadors know when to stop wandering the jungle and say, “Fuck it, it ain’t here man.”

The good news is that porn is supposedly rolling into a revolution. Progressive sex-positive folk are doing our best to encourage the budding indie porn scene. Film by film, these porno pioneers honorably try to break the formulaic, chauvinistic, cheesy, thoughtless and fake mold. Women are also taking their place behind the camera and behind the production desk to give the industry what it needs – a little balance.

Women are not only making porn; they are also consuming porn. A giant reason for that is due in part to the work of a woman named Violet Blue. Violet has been matching the right porn to the right woman for a long time. She is the sommelier of the porn industry. Violet Blue even penned a book on the subject: The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn. If you are going to be truly dedicated to your project (or if you just like to keep really sweet books around the house), I think you should buy the book. At the very least Violet Blue is worth a serious googling.

If you are looking for something you are both going to want to sit through, I highly encourage you to start with instructional videos. I know this isn’t porn, per se, but my lady friend and I hardly ever make it through one with all our clothes on, and can you ever really know too much about sex? Videos like Nina Hartley’s guides (any of them, really) OR Vivid Ed’s selection, produced by the lovely and talented Tristan Taormino, cover cunnilingus, fellatio, anal, and more. I think they are very watchable. Penny Flame has Expert Guide to Handjobs that is a lot of fun (then again, I am a little sweet on her, so I am biased).

Speaking of Tristan Taormino- after she published the instructional books that made her famous, she began producing porn (like the titles mentioned above). Tristan Taormino’s Chemistry series was a revolutionary concept in porn. She filled a house with porn stars whom she knew and respected and filmed them, a la Real World. The stars negotiated their own pairings and “scenes” and then acted them out, the theory being that the cast would be respectful of one another and completely professional. Tristan cleverly solved the acting and plot problem plaguing porn by simply removing the need for them.

Violet Blue put a director on my radar named Eon McKai. He is putting out porn that can best be described as porn for the alternative generation. His style of alt-porn comes right out of the suicide girl brand of sexuality (where he worked as a photographer). This is certainly breaking the tired (some might say classic) porn visual aesthetic but I can’t guarantee any innovation in formula. His website will allow you a peak into his style with an option to buy. Larger companies are marketing trailers for their films (see Digital Playground’s podcast) and that might also serve as a tool for searching out the right film for you.

For those who have more bold taste, Ninn Worx is putting out highly stylized porn. I can only best describe them as “art installment” porn. In my opinion, it isn’t something anyone would sit down and watch all the way through, but I can see it as sex party ambience. Let me put it this way, I would much rather my snooty intellectual colleagues find this by accident on my bookshelf rather than my bootleg of Big Wet Asses 12 (which I am not ashamed of by the way). I am referring to the films Fem Adagio and Sacred Sin. From the work I have seen I can guarantee the “formula” problem has been turned on its head, but the male-centered aspect of the actual sex acts is still front and center. Deal with that as you will.

Early to Bed (and, of course, Early to Rise) in Chicago can also hook you up with the products of local porn studios (one of which is Early to Bed itself!), and you can support the Chicago industry and feel good about yourself in more ways that one. I encourage you to pop into a sex positive store with films that have reviews posted by other shoppers or at the very least a competent and friendly staff to pull down a few of their favorite skin flicks.

If my recommendations or anyone else’s don’t take, I hope you don’t feel discouraged. Consider making your own porn if that’s something you think your lady friend might be into. And don’t forget, there’s a whole wide world of dirty images to sort through. The fact is that you have a lady who has expressed interest in something that you like! Enjoy it, and happy hunting!

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  • Loooooosey

    You might also want to check out Comstock Films. They don't have *plots* per se, but are more like a pornographic documentary about real couples.

  • Loooooosey

    You might also want to check out Comstock Films. They don't have *plots* per se, but are more like a pornographic documentary about real couples.

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